Made for each other..........

Relationships are like thread, they can tie you together and help you to build a strong bond with people or if not handled correctly they suffocate you to death!!

With changing life-style the meaning of Relationship has changed to a great extent.  What people need is a trust, faith and to top it all space !!!

Why relationships break?
I personally feel, that they break because we do not want them to work!!
we live with the negativity all throughout our life, we are all the time busy playing blame game to escape from our weaknesses, we always pity ourselves, we always have suspicion about everything which is going to happen or rather we are overcautious about the result of our efforts and more importantly we break those relations which we know we can break !!  we prefer to disown things as per our own convenience because we do not want to make efforts to make them work!! If a child is not eating food and remain hungry for a day will the mother allow to remain her/him hungry? she will make all the efforts in the world to feed him !!

Relations break because there are less efforts to make them work......and those efforts should be unconditional, sincere and honest. 

How to make relationship work?

• Simple, just stop thinking negatively about anything around you, the more negative you think the more negativity you attract in your life.  If your relationship is breaking never ever think that it is going to break or treat the situation in that manner, in fact in such situation keep the things as normal as you can, and it does wonders!!
• Never indulge with people who pass negative vibes, always make friends with people who inspire you or motivate you in a right direction
• Self healing, is the best way to solve many issues in life, find ways which help you to keep your calm and help you to remain focused in life
• Spend sufficient time in introspecting, just try and evaluate your actions and what you could have done better, while doing this never let thoughts of self pity come to your mind, this exercise can be done just for 15 mins a day but it really helps in improving your inner-strength
• Always look at the positive side of every situation or person, this tremendously help people to maintain relations
• Be thankful to whatever you receive in life, that will help you to remain contented and happy
• And patience !!! listen to the other person, give time to people to make things work but this we find very difficult in the culture of 20/20 match & fast-food :)

It is very simple to come out and say that it is not working or it did not work We are very selfish as far as these things are concerned, we always make efforts for those things which gives us materialistic results,but we always ignore or take for granted things which do not give us materialistic benefits.

We often forget that all materialistic things will vanish one day and what will remain forever with us and go with us is the true unconditional love of our loved ones !!! We need to put all efforts to make all relations work in our life and if the efforts are genuine, sincere and honest there is nothing in the world which can stop your success!!!

Listen to the whisper ... or wait for the brick!

A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street, going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something. As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag's side door! He slammed on the brakes and drove the Jag back to the spot where the brick had been thrown. The angry driver then jumped out of the car, grabbed the nearest kid and pushed him up against a parked car, shouting, "What was that all about and who are you?
Just what the heck are you doing?
That's a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money.
Why did you do it?"
The young boy was apologetic. "Please mister ... please, I'm sorry... I didn't know what else to do," he pleaded.
"I threw the brick because no one else would stop..."
With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot just around a parked car.
"It's my brother," he said.
"He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up."

Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me."
Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out his fancy handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going to be okay.

"Thank you and may God bless you," the grateful child told the stranger.
Too shook up for words, the man simply watched the little boy push his wheelchair-bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home. It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable, but the driver never bothered to repair the dented side door. He kept the dent there to remind him of this message: Don't go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!

God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we don't have time to listen, He has to throw a brick at us.

It's our choice: Listen to the whisper ... or wait for the brick!

Agoraphobia Story: Finding a Purpose Greater than Fear

Autor: saprice

Since I recovered from panic disorder and agoraphobia, people often ask me what the major turning point in my recovery was. There were many turning points, but if I had to choose just one, I would pick the night I made a deal with God in one of my darkest hours of fear. That’s because it changed the orientation of my life.

I wasn’t sure if you can really make a deal with God, but I didn’t care. In complete and utter desperation, I prayed to God that if I could be freed from suffering and have my normal life back, I would use whatever abilities God gave me in the service of other people. I told God that if I were made well, my purpose in life would be to help others in times of suffering. Though I didn’t know it then, this change in purpose made all the difference.

To that point my life had all been about me. My life had been about doing whatever I needed to do to achieve everything I wanted for myself. Though I hadn’t realized it, the purpose I had given myself actually created fear – fear of failure.

When my life was all about meeting my personal goals, fear of failure always loomed in the back of my mind. I lived with the anxiety that I may not reach my goals or get what I want out of life – and then what would my life have meant? Constantly striving, fulfillment and satisfaction always seemed to be far away in the future.

In making this promise to God that I would live to do good for others, I let go of the anxiety over reaching my personal goals and found a new sense of purpose in giving to others. This new sense of purpose offers meaning and satisfaction along the way. I have since found that when the purpose of my life is to do good for others, I have a purpose greater than fear, including the fear of failing.

The need for purpose is one of the most basic human needs. A strong sense of meaning can be powerful in overcoming a fearful situation. German psychiatrist, Viktor Frankl, wrote about this in his book, Man’s Search for Meaning.

Dr. Frankl had the unique experience of living through the horrors of the Nazi death camps of World War II. Approximately one in twenty-six of Frankl’s fellow prisoners survived. From observation and interview, Frankl discovered that the main difference between those who lived and those who died was a deep sense of meaning or purpose in life.

Simply put, the men who lived were the ones who had the strongest reasons to live. The disproportionate survival of men who practiced religious faith intrigued Frankl greatly. He watched spiritual men of inferior constitution outlive more robust prison-mates. As a result, Frankl emerged from the prison camps firmly convinced that a sense of meaning or purpose in life is as vital to our existence as food, water or clothing.

I first read about Frankl’s experience when I had agoraphobia. When I read about his experience I related to the men in the Nazi death camps because I felt like I was in prison also, only my prison was a psychological one instead of a physical one.
Agoraphobia had turned my own home into a prison. The difference between my prison and a Nazi death camp was that I had a lot more control over my release. My prison was of my own making.

I decided that if a strong sense of meaning and purpose in life could sustain a man through the horrors of a Nazi death camp, then certainly a sense of meaning and purpose in life could carry me through to the other side of panic disorder and agoraphobia. I just needed a purpose in life that was greater than my fear, especially my fear of failure.

Self expression & Social Networking Sites

Self expression & Social Networking Sites

I was at the Seminar yesterday and there the topic of Social networking was discussed at length.  Many aspects were discussed but the thought (put across by one of the speakers) which awakened me was how carelessly people respond on these social networking sites.  What we write or express can create a huge impact on the image and emotional stability of a person at the receiving end, but who cares!  We just express spontaneously without much realization.

Words we use are like sword, it can be used either to defeat somebody or to save our own life! Here when we respond we are playing with the emotion of a person, it can create both positive and negative impact on the receiver/reader/follower.  Just because we cannot see the person’s reaction does not get the ticket to express anything we feel like or what comes in our mind.

Many a times our responses to quiet a few issues depend upon our emotional status at that time.

With changing life style now, people are becoming more and more dependent on these social media for self-expression.  It definitely helps people to come out of their loneliness and brings the world closer but at the same time what we need to remember is that it involves humans!!

Mahatma Gandhi had said, “The human voice can never reach the distance that is covered by the still small voice of conscience.”